Teaching trust, honesty and integrity

Lina has been lying about going to her yoga class. She registered June 20th and was supposed to go there every day which I thought she was doing. She would come home and say how difficult it was to do stretches and follow the teacher. Then last Monday I found out she was not going because Nathaniel saw her outside the house, the time she had to be in class. So I knew. Later she came to my school and commented on stretches she didn't do. Nathaniel and I had to talk to her about what she did. All her privileges( cell, computer, tv time, do what I want to do time) were removed. I have to watch her like a hawk. I kept MY TV time, which is an evolutionary step for me. Because in the past I woudn't watch TV if she was not allowed. How crazy was that?! I was punishing myself too. That was being nuts and over-responsible. In general I have this tendency of whiping up every one else's ass by either being too helpful or sorting out too much of other's crap. Bottom line I have to ask myself "am I enabling my child to cope with the world, to grow and learn to be responsible and taking care of herself, or am I turning her into powerless immature brainless leech?" The choice is easy.